The Spread Of Domestic Violence Online

  • Lucy left her violent ex-partner after 10 years of abuse, she thought she had finally escaped and hoped she and her five-year-old daughter could be happy again.

    The Guardian reported what she said:

    "He found ways to contact me online, and I still felt like he was watching me, that he had some control over me".

    Despite the fact that Lucy had moved out of the area where she lived with her abuser and has married someone else, her ex-partner kept sending messages through other people to her new husband and setting up anonymous online accounts to reach her.

    Lucy said:

    "It's like a playground bullying game. He would contact my mother and say he knew what I'd been doing because he had seen it on Facebook - even though I had privacy settings as high as they could go..."

    "It shows you who you can trust - and now I just don't trust anybody."

    She was advised to stay away from social networks, which she regards to be "giving in" to her abuser.

    She also said:

    "He controlled my life for 10 years and now it's like he's saying: 'I'm still in your life, you can never get rid of me.' It's frustrating because you can't be free to have a normal life."

    When Lucy told the police about the attempts to contact and abuse her online, she was not helped:

    "When it comes to Facebook the police just don't want to know."

    She reviews her privacy settings every week, and when she can't handle the threats, shuts down her account.

    She expressed her feelings and concluded thus:

    "When you leave you think you have a chance of a new life without them, but when they contact you online it's like they are in the room."

    "Being bullied online brings it all back - you can heal from a punch in the face, but the mental torture never goes away."

Related articles

  • Read More


    The online survey posed questions to 1,479 people between ages 14 to 24 to rate which social media platform (of YouTube, Instagram, Snapchat, Facebook and Twitter) negatively impact their users.The...

  • Read More


    INSTAGRAMGOOGLE TRANSLATEHOMESWAPPER MATCHESFACEBOOK LIVEWHATSAPPTAWKYou can download these apps online and via Android or IOS devices as well. Enjoy!What do you think? Please tweet...

  • Read More


    Some of such devices and apps which will be available in April 2017 are:AliveCor- A mobile heart monitor (strapped to the back of a smartphone) which will also save NHS money, reducing need for...

  • Read More


    The #UKHousingFast is a social media campaign which is led by people living and working in social housing to support the activities of Trussell Trust.This fast is in its third year and will take...

  • Read More

    Twitter leads national campaign for compassionate care

    #HelloMyNameIs is a social media based campaign created by one doctor, Kate Granger, in order to encourage healthcare professionals to introduce themselves to patients.The campaign is now being...

  • Read More

    Social media for housing associations

    Online engagement between many commercial and charitable organisations and their clients and users has become very popular. However, many housing organisations have not succeeded as well as they...

  • Read More

    An effective social media strategy for your social organisation

    It is important to reach a position on social media where the community feels comfortable in sharing the content that you post.Your content should reflect the trust and integrity your users have for...

  • Read More

    The Social Media Presence of Social Organisations

    However, there are still many organisations who are not taking full advantage of social media platforms by not regularly updating their users and followers with content, nor sharing links that their...

  • Read More

    Charity urges homelessness to be put to an end

    Homeless Link, in its manifesto to end homelessness, has urged the next Government to end rough sleeping, ensure employment and welfare support, provide more homes and protect the rights of tenants,...

  • Read More

    Instagram for your Social Organisation

    It has beat Twitter in terms of number of users, but it is currently outperforming in terms of engagement as well.Instagram's engagement is 50 times higher than Twitter. The difference is a large...

Revenue Optimisation "I am really impressed with Support Solutions and how small organisations are supported with information and training" Susan Harrison (Tenant Support Services)


Briefing Signup